I love, love, love this saying. It’s my new mantra. Primarily because I make everything about “me” and I need to stop doing that. It’s easy enough say “other’s people stuff is their stuff, mine is mine”. But in real life, my ego has a tendency to make everyone’s stuff about me (see projecting blog).
I have to remember to love everyone enough to let go so I can be free. I do not have to be “Marge in charge”. Holding on doesn’t change other people, places and things and letting go doesn’t either, but it offers me the peace of mind I need to be centered and healthy.
I am not all-knowing enough to be the director of life. Quite frankly, pretending to be is exhausting enough because, try as I might, I don’t have that kind of control.
There’s a line in a Van Wilder movie that has always stuck with me – “Worrying is like a rocking chair; it gives you something to do, but doesn’t get you anywhere.” Man, said like that, worrying doesn’t sound very attractive and I can find better things to do with my time.
It’s ironic how when I stop making other people’s issues about me, I’m forced to look at myself. So there’s the “selfish me” and then there’s the “just being with me”. WTH?
